The holidays are coming fast, and I'll admit I'm feeling stressed as this month flies by. Have you sent out holiday cards? I haven't. I’m staring at a big stack of blank cards as I type this. But I won’t let that bother me this year! I’m focusing on being kind to myself and more present during the holidays. I found an article by British American Household Staffing with helpful tips. Here are my key takeaways:

Set intentional, realistic goals.

Rather than packing your calendar with as much as possible, outline what you want your holiday to look like. Prioritize yourself first with self-care sprinkled throughout the month. Get to the spa, yoga class, or support group you can’t live without. Even little moments of zen have a big impact on your energy. Then prioritize the people you want to spend this time with and the events you want to host or attend. Let that outline be your guide for your plans, and learn how to say “No” to the things less important to you. Saying no can be difficult, which brings us to…

Manage expectations and say “no”.

You’ll have no shortage of parties, community events, or dinners that you can attend. Set your own expectation that you can’t attend them all! Get comfortable with the idea that you are just one person. Maybe you want to participate in as much as possible, but remember that you want to enjoy this season and the memories you’ll make.

If you’re a hard-core people pleaser, or if it’s really awkward for you to decline plans in the moment, think of a thoughtful response ahead of time. Put that baby in your phone or on your planner, and dish it out as often as needed!

Ask for help.

Trying to do so much by yourself will almost certainly end with pain and misery (physical and/or mental). The holiday will pass you right by and you won’t remember one second of it. Think of the resources you have in your daily life - partners, friends, assistants, cleaners, your favorite bakery or grocer, your go-to store for decorations and party planning, your counselor, etc. Use them and use them often!

Don’t forget the reason for the season - spreading love, gratitude, and joy, and spending time with your favorite people. The memories, the traditions, the history…these are the things people remember most. Have the happiest of holidays this year, and every year to come!